Being misunderstood is the first spike shown in any relationship-related disorder. Re-assuring words and actions are like the first-aid to this damage in relationships, wherever it is, be it at the workplace or at home.
You might have a set of beliefs and principles which make you, you. Similarly, others will also have their own set of principles which makes them, them. This changes over time, however, people around you won’t necessarily know that your beliefs are now changed. This triggers resentment, misunderstanding, and silence between people.
It is our job to find such silenced relationships, friendships, family ties and re-ignite with reassuring words, kindness, and casual small-talks.
Regular catch up goes a long way in maintaining a healthy relationship with anyone. If you are a fan of maintaining spreadsheets to track your expenses, why not consider maintaining another one to list all the people you know in your life, who matters to you, and start keeping a schedule of connecting with them regularly? (you could as well list their important dates, likes and dislikes and use it to surprise them while connecting next time).
If at any time your set of characteristics and beliefs about you change, big or small, be prepared for some initial mockery, teasing, confrontation from those around you. This is normal because you’re not the same they’re used to and more often than not, this change may conflict with their own set of beliefs, at least about you.
They still care about you, but just want the old you back. If you acknowledge this expectation from people around you and act to build bridges in communication, especially when you sense a change in your belief system, it will tremendously help you in maintaining healthy relationships.
Cheers, and good luck!
– Arun
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