Why doesn’t meditation help or work all the time?
Don’t get me wrong. I meditate almost daily and to me, it is not about sitting in a calm place and focusing on my breath. It is far from it. I instead focus on any task I am doing then and just go with it…sometimes without controlling it and go with the flow.
But whenever we lose our cool..which inevitably happens someday as long as we are alive and not isolated at the top of Himalayan mountains forever, we must learn to divert our mind too. Especially we must never sit to meditate when we are angry. It only escalates the severity. I come from the vantage point where we tend to focus more on just one thing. Of course, even with meditation, our mind searches for objects left, right, top, center and bottom before calming down.
So when we are fuming inside about something like a Tsunami or a volcano, don’t try to suppress that feeling. If you do, it either bursts out in a different way, or it might adversely affect our health system and even get sown deep enough within our minds as a mental scar.
So what to do when we angry? Divert the mind! Because it’s the mind that usually starts the internal monologue to make you angry. Work at the roots. Divert your mind to something entertaining.
Sing out loudly.
Watch a movie.
Call a friend and talk.
Record a video of your actions when you are angry and watch it later to have some retrospective introspection.
Don’t ever meditate when you are angry. Relax and calm your mind down through other ways. Similar to Yin and Yang, Good and Bad, the meditation also has its share of good and bad effects and are part of the same coin – the other side being ‘diversion’, a healthy one at that.