The Key Ponderer

Words are underrated tools available at everyone’s disposal. Essentially, using a person’s keywords are next best to mentioning their names while speaking with them.

The way one uses the words to convey messages, feelings, thoughts, ideas, and to negotiate, initiate, convince and so much more shows how much that person can progress in life. The richer your vocabulary, the more expansive your thought processes, and the ability to express yourself will be.

On a similar note, each of us has a set of words we plant in our sentences, subconsciously.

Next time, when you speak with someone, observe and listen for those few words they repeatedly use while talking. Identify the patterns.

Those are the ‘keywords’, idiosyncratic to the individual. Often you can group them into a few clusters of words.

Make note of them, literally, in Google Keep or anywhere you can jot down your personal ideas and thoughts that are available within reach. Use those words subtly (don’t make it obvious) while interacting with them next time – this act will methodically synchronize your message with their thought processes and activate the synchrony automatically between both your brain waves. They will start seeing you on their side if you are talking at a transactional level.

 

Cheers, and good luck!

– Arun

The World seems complicated because we tend to make it so.

We assume from the get-go that this is an objective world. An idealistic view where every person is pragmatic and that everyone appreciates good values.

Problems vanish into thin air if we expand our understanding. It’s also true that every person on this planet is correct in their own world view. That’s nothing but being subjective to their environments, they are correct in their viewpoints.

This leaves us thinking what’s right and what’s wrong and who is going to decide that?

The world you see is different from the one your colleagues see. Their perceptions will differ and are subject to the experiences they have gone through in their life, in their upbringing.

Next time, whenever you find yourself caught in a situation where your action is based on the best of motives but it is being perceived differently, remember that life’s inevitable clause of ‘Subjective and Objective Perception’ is at play. The best thing to do at that point is to give yourself some time trusting that the time will someday bring the best motives to light. Of course, you can try explaining your viewpoint, but the more you push, the more the opposite viewpoint wins.

Cheers, and good luck!

– Arun

Speak with people by providing them with choices. Always give them freedom of choice. Deliver your argument in a way that sounds favorable to them.

This also needs a lot of ground-work to be done, and you should know what or with whom you are dealing.

Nobody likes to be told what needs to be done, while some do, not everyone. But almost everyone likes the freedom of choice, where their internal dialogues tell them what they want to choose.

So, if you want something to get done, give the power of choice to people and magically you will still get what you want. This works when you place the choices in an obvious way to show that the one you want to get done is the winner, without being creepy. If you make it as their choice, you will have very little work to do in negotiating, convincing them for the action to be taken. Works everywhere – at home, at work, in the world. 

That being said, don’t use this for manipulating anyone with wrong or misleading outcomes. Use it with a sense of care and love, and to assist people in clearing out their blocks in decision-making.

Just know when to use it.

Cheers, and good luck!

– Arun